Carl and Ruth met on eHarmony in late July 2017. Both felt a strong leading from God that this was the relationship He had been preparing their hearts for over the course of many years, struggles and heartache. Just five months after their first correspondence, they were married in Brookville, Pa., in the pavilion where they had their first date, Scripture Rocks Park.
Our blog is an ongoing story of God’s forgiveness, mercy, redemption and hope through Jesus Christ. Our goal is to help others who are INFJ and Christian find peace with their unique personality that often makes it difficult to fit into groups and trends and makes them vulnerable to narcissists and others who would exploit their empathy.
Our union brought together Carl’s two dogs, a 100-pound black Lab named Brody and 60-pound long-haired mutt named Polly, and his cat, Kitty Mew Mew, and Ruth’s two ragdoll cats, Max and Ruby. Never a dull moment!
I am writer, photographer and filmmaker and have been as long as I can remember (about 50 years). I am still figuring out what I want to do with my life and am open to suggestions.
My focus has always been on the historical, the whimsical and prosaic, not that anything in life is truly prosaic, with the possible exception of hot dogs, macaroni salad, dollar/big box stores, and broadcast media.
My interest in filmmaking goes back to my childhood, when I drew films on long strips of paper and fed them through an opaque projector, and wore out a couple of Give-A-Show Projectors. These interests eventually led to collecting classic films on 16mm, a hobby I no longer participate in as a buyer but I do enjoy watching what I have in my collection.
I have been a professional photographer, which is to say I had a full-time job so I could pursue a photography as a money-losing proposition. These days, my passion for photography has been replaced by filmmaking, although both tend intersect in my multi-media work. BTW, for many years I made “slide shows” with three or four projectors controlled by a computerized dissolve interface. Some of the themes and images from those days, which ended nearly two decades ago, live on in my videos.
Writing always paid the bills and fed the livestock; I worked for the Ashtabula Star Beacon Newspaper for more than 20 years. A divorce in 2013 sent me on a new trajectory and path of discovery that eventually le me to Ruth.
Our “cottage” is a stone house nestled among oak trees off a long driveway in the City of Geneva. Built by Clarence Helwig, the house is on land that was once part of a sprawling orchard that included apple trees, vineyards and berry bushes. Clarence managed this orchard and as he worked the land he’d come across large rocks, which he saved for a future home. He also collected rocks that farmers from the southern section of Ashtabula County pulled from their fields. These rocks had traveled great distances from the north, having been carried to the county by glaciers. Section by section, Mr. Helwig built the house of boulders and rocks. It includes a stone fireplace in the basement, now our movie theater. The second floor was added to the original stone house in the early 1980s. The original structure dates to the early 1950s with the two-room addition coming along in the 1960s. It is likely the garage and former cold-storage room for the orchard was the first rock structure on the property. A rock wall, which was never completed, ties the house and garage together.
Carl acquired the property in an extremely distressed condition (both the house and Carl) in the winter of 2015. It had been vacant for more than four years and had extensive water damage and black mold throughout; all of the copper plumbing had been stolen. Through more than two years of painstaking work, long weekends, late nights and “vacations,” Carl brought the house back to its country farmhouse heritage. Throughout the long months of restoration and struggle (his wife divorced him during this time), Carl was motivated by a vision of providing a comfortable repose for his next and last wife. He had no idea who it would be, but knew that God would provide as he “waited productively.” And then he met Ruth.
The Feather Cottage
Carl E. & Ruth E. Feather
1355 Sherman St.
Geneva OH 44041